How to Develop Confidence?

Confidence is an important attribute of life. It is an asset for happiness and success and it is difficult to live without it. But what if you are not confident right now? Does it mean you have to be that way forever? The answer is NO. Confidence can be acquired. It's not like other physical aspects of your personality like height or colour of your hair etc (though there are now many scientific ways to change these also). Confidence is psychological. It is related to your mind. Here are 3 simple ways to develop confidence:

1. Raise Your Self Esteem - Confidence and self esteem go hand in hand. If either of it is damaged, the other automatically gets low. Self esteem is what you think about yourself. Whether you appreciate or you feel bad about the way you are. Gaining confidence starts with knowing your true self. Respecting your uniqueness and individuality. It's about discovering your inner capabilities and nurturing them. When you feel good about yourself, it reflects in your actions and in turn makes you look confident.

2. Be an interesting person - Another way to develop confidence is by making yourself interesting. Engage yourself in activities and people. Develop curiosity about knowing new things and meeting different people. It has two benefits - firstly it will broaden your imagination. It fills your mind new ideas and facts which can change the whole perspective of life.

Secondly, it makes a person likable. Everyone wants to hang around with someone who has new things to talk about, has knowledge and experience to share. This is one of the most effortless and fun way of gaining confidence.

3. Train your mind for positive self talk - Our mind is constantly creating thoughts. Thoughts are basically a conversation between you and your mind. It is necessary that those conversations be positive and motivating or else they can take you onto an entirely negative track. The trick is to not control your thoughts by stopping your thoughts, but to observe them as a third person would do and then let them pass without adding reasoning to it.

Do this little experiment. Watch your thoughts like you are listening to a third person talking. Do this 4-5 times a day. Just observe the pattern of your thoughts in a detached manner. You will slowly start to understand how your mind works. You will also be surprised to know that once your mind (your thinking self) realizes that someone is watching (you) it will get conscious and your negative thinking habit will diminish in a subtle way. So train you mind with only positive self talk about yourself, the circumstances you face and the people around you in general.

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